One of the problems parents have is that we anticipate that our kids just some how are supposed to know how to behave properly, but we’ve never really taught them. Parents punish their kids when they “misbehave”, but they never really reinforce their kid’s positive behavior. We also do the same thing to ourselves as parents. Somehow we’re just supposed to know how to be good parents even though no one has ever taught us. If we make a mistake, then we beat ourselves up for having made a mistake.
Do you see how this thing got started? It started when we were little kids. It was done to us all through our childhood, we’re doing it to ourselves as parents, and then we keep doing the same thing to our kids. We have to turn that around. We have to get used to the idea that we have to teach our kids how to be good people. We have to teach and reinforce the behavior that we want our kids to exhibit.